4 Dec 19. God bless you Jordan.

In my dream people mocked me and laughed at me. And a sentence popped out in my head: There is much more to life than living. I don’t know what it meant.

I am a very agreeable person and easily taken advantage of. I simply can’t say n…, n…., n….. You see!? On Friday, I agreed to do a favour for a friend. Ridiculous, scandalous favour no one else would ever agree to do. I felt like a total loser. When I woke up the next morning I read from the “12 Rules for Life” by Jordan Peterson. I came across below passage. Afterwards, I made a call and, probably for the first time in my life, I declined a request in a plain, simple and direct words losing a friend in the process, but saving my dignity and self-respect. Here is the passage:

I learned two very important lessons from Carl Jung, the famous Swiss depth psychologist, about “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you” or “loving your neighbour as yourself.” The first lesson was that neither of these statements has anything to do with being nice. The second was that both are equations, rather than injunctions. If I am someone’s friend, family member, or lover, then I am morally obliged to bargain as hard on my own behalf as they are on theirs. If I fail to do so, I will end up a slave, and the other person a tyrant. What good is that? It is much better for any relationship when both partners are strong. Furthermore, there is little difference between standing up and speaking for yourself, when you are being bullied or otherwise tormented and enslaved, and standing up and speaking for someone else. As Jung points out, this means embracing and loving the sinner who is yourself, as much as forgiving and aiding someone else who is stumbling and imperfect.

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